Adoption is an amazing, wonderful, beautiful process. It is a blessing, tainted by pain and bound in love. It is not just a good idea, it is a dream for many and a hope for others. It is never easy… some families wait, and wait, and wait some more before their child joins them. Others wait, and wait, and wait some more before they receive the love they have been hoping for from their child.
An adoptive family has to be ready to give unconditional love, and receive the love they are offered from their children in whatever form it may come. Adoptive parents have to choose, over and over again, to love and to not be offended when they feel unappreciated or experience sadness because they share the heart of their child with another mom and dad. Adoptive parents must be willing to talk with their children about their sadness and allow them to feel their feelings. Adoptive parents must realize the gift of life and sharing a child with another family.
Adoptive parents love life. They desire to be a part of something bigger and more incredible than they can imagine. They may never completely understand all the complicated emotions, and facets of adoption, but they are willing to put themselves out there anyway. There are many challenges, and those challenges cannot become their focus. They are ready to face challenges and remain positive – focused on the blessing of life, of being a parent, of giving the best they can give to another. Adoptive parents know they are not perfect, and they try to be the best they can be. Their desire is to bless children, and to be blessed and changed by the experience that adoption brings. It is an amazing journey. A journey full of love, laughter, beauty, sacrifice, pain, grief and immense joy.